Have you ever tried it before?
Oh my God...(chuckles)
Then DO NOT EVEN THINK OF TRYING.
Yeah. Controversies are fun, aren't they?
Like gossips. That's what lead you here in the first place, am I not wrong?
Although, please don't enjoy gossips, controversies and the like (dan yg seumpama dengannya). We may not realize it, but those are considered "ghibah" or in Malay "mengumpat". Ghibah is an Arabic term. In English, I'll just translate this simply, it means talking something about someone, behind his back, that if the person finds out or somehow hears about it, then he will become angry, or dislikes what he hears. More simply, ghibah means saying bad things about a person behind his back, even if it is the truth.
It is a sin. I repeat, ghibah is a sin. A big sin, and the Prophet Muhammad saw / pbuh said; "
Beware of ghibah for the sin of ghibah is bigger than the sin of adultery (zina). Verily those who commit adultery, when he repents, Allah will accept his repentance. And verily those who do ghibah (back-stabbing/ says bad things about someone behind his back), his sin WILL NOT BE FORGIVEN BEFORE THE PERSON TO WHOM HE DOES GHIBAH FORGIVES HIM." (from Ibnu Abi al-Dunya and Ibnu Hibban. Taken from the magazine Solusi, issue 18, page 37)
In my opinion, (for the adultery part), Allah Taala will accept the repentance/ taubah of an adulterer, with the condition that it is taubah nasuha, which is he or she really, really, really regrets it and vows never to do it again. That is the real taubah which insya-Allah will be heard and accepted by Allah Taala for He is al-Ghofur wa ar-Rahim (الغفور الرحيم).
As for the sin of ghibah...take it seriously my friends. Let us...really take it seriously.
Muhammad saw, the person whom we follow for guidance on how to live our lives as muslims said,
"the sin of ghibah is bigger than the sin of adultery (zina)."Can we just, just stop every thought in our mind and think about what this man has said? Muhammad saw compared, our gossiping (which in my opinion is modern term of ghibah), to adultery. Just...just think. If adultery in our (Islamic) perspective is utterly...I don't know..gross and disgusting..then why did Nabi (prophet) Muhammad saw compared it with ghibah? And he even went further and said, ghibah is worse than zina! Can we just...feel for a moment how big ghibah is?
this is just a friendly reminder to you, and to me even more. Just...just think before we say something. Remember Nabi Muhammad saw said;
"his sin WILL NOT BE FORGIVEN BEFORE THE PERSON TO WHOM HE DOES GHIBAH FORGIVES HIM."
Remember, these words are the words of the most truthful and honest man, to me at least, that I have ever known. So trust him. His words must have a wisdom, and even more, truth behind them.
Allright2...coot2...the train of thought has sidetracked...AGAIN..
Yes2. My controversial title. (smiles)
That's a big NO.
NO, I DON'T SMOKE.
But there were days when I did smoke.
Ahah. Don't be. Because know that you can be a smoker too, even when you hate, loathe, grrr utterly loathe, hate (did I say that before?) smoking.
Second hand smoker
Yes, my dear mates.
Unfortunately, VERY unfortunately, those who have never lighted a cigarette butt, are sometimes smokers too.
When we pass through the streets, and suddenly that nice aroma comes like a charm under our noses..ah...what a nice surprise eh?
Nice...yeah. I'm being sarcastic here (sinis/perli).
What is secondhand smoke?
Why is secondhand smoke a problem?
Secondhand smoke causes cancer
Secondhand smoke causes other kinds of diseases and deaths
Secondhand smoke may be linked to breast cancer
Secondhand smoke kills children and adults who don't smoke, and makes others sick (Surgeon General's report)
Yahoo! Nice to know we are passive smokers! wahaha...(rolling my eye balls, though not very good at it)
Two hands, two different things
I want to share a picture I saw last night.
Last night, Saturday 20th Nov 2010, while I was on my way home to KL, at a RNR, I saw this strange picture.
It was a man.
And he was holding two different things in his two hands.
In one of his hands, between his fingers, was...a cigarette. It's butt was still red; signalling it had just been lit.
Guess what was in his other hand?
It was his little daughter.
Maybe only one or two years old.
It was the strangest 'picture' I had ever seen.
Here was, in front of me, a man, who is the picture (gambaran) of a loving father. but at the same time, he is also the picture of...a destroyer.
does he not know what he is doing to his beloved daughter?
The effects of second hand smoking is very severe, as told to us over and over again. Second hand smokers, are in fact, inhaling the same chemicals and toxics that the smoker inhales with every puff, when in fact second hand smokers never even dreamed of putting that blasted piece of rubbish even one meter from their mouthes.
A different analogy
I wonder...if every smoker just put this mental analogue in their minds, would they ever thought of smoking again;
Picture a cigarette as a knife, putting it in your mouth, and suck on that knife as if it were the sweetest lollipop on earth...can you imagine the effects?
would you have put this in your mouth?
Ouch...this is rated PG13...
But you know, sometimes when all sweet measures (talks, campaigns etc ) have failed to knock some sense, what else can you resort to?
I don't have the answer...
The answer is within ourselves.
Like that strange picture I told you about.
What would that man have chosen to be; a loving father,
or an unknowingly destroyer of his daughter's life?
It's a choice. It's our choice. The question is; which choice will it be?
Your life - your choice. So choose wisely my friends. Until we meet again, assalamualaikum wbt.